There
is a certain degree of fear that exists within any relationship. For some
people this fear is overwhelming. They will avoid dating or pursuing
relationships due to the fact that they are scared. They may have had bad
experiences in the past. They may just be shy or have their own reasons for
being afraid.
Some
people simply have a fear of commitment. They may be afraid of losing their
freedom. They may not want to risk being hurt. They protect their heart and do not
want to risk anything happening to it. No matter what the issue is, it is well
documented that in some cases fear will control a person’s life. They are not
capable of functioning effectively within the world. This creates a major
problem and can devastate some people.
The
first thing to do in conquering fears is to admit that you are afraid. Be
willing to say you have a problem. This is often the most difficult step on the
process of overcoming the fear. Once you can open up and talk to people, they will
be able to see that you get the help you need to get better. If you do not talk
about your fear, there is no way for anyone to help you deal with it. You may
not be dealing with it yourself. Perhaps you have put it in the back of your
mind and are pretending that there is nothing wrong.
After
you have admitted your fear, you can start to deal with it and overcome it.
There are many ways to deal with your fear. Perhaps you need to have someone to
talk to. Maybe a friend or family member is a good source of help for you. Talk
with people and see what help they can offer you. Perhaps someone has been
through the same things or something similar and can offer you expert advice.
If you do not get any answers from your support system, look for fear related discussion
groups. You can do a search on the internet to find groups in your area. This
puts you in touch with people that are suffering the same way that you are.
Do
not try to date while you are overcoming your fears. This is a sure way to set
you up for failure. You are not completely happy with yourself. If you are not
happy and content with your individual life, you cannot give your whole self to
a relationship and be completely happy with another person. You will doom the
relationship before it ever begins. It is best to completely heal yourself
before you begin dating.
No
matter what the issues are that you are facing, it is important to know that
they can be dealt with and handled. You can overcome and live a happy,
fulfilled life. It is possible to work everything out and then find the person
that you are meant to spend the rest of your life with. You will be happy and
at peace within yourself. This makes it possible to love someone and put your
whole heart into the relationship.